@firstimemumconfessions has shared (What not to say to a mum who has lost a baby or miscarried!) Please read below👇👇 I would rather people kept quiet instead of saying things like- “at least you can get pregnant.” I lost a pregnancy! My emotions are all over the place, my body is still trying to heal from the ordeal. There is no ‘at least’ here.
Or “don’t worry, you’ll be fine. It is more common than you think.” Why tell me that? I may be 1in4 right now, but let me be a person. Not a statistic.
“Don’t cry. It’s okay. Calm down.” Please let a grieving person cry all she wants. It’s a path to healing too. Everyone responds differently to grief. It’s not an off and on switch that can be changed just because you said so.
“It wasn’t even a real baby yet” Really? *I just realized even writing this is getting me worked up so I’m not going to expand this one but please never say this to someone who has just lost a pregnancy.
I understand people react either based on their own experiences or (limited) knowledge. However, I think it’s best to just keep quiet when in doubt.
If a close friend or family shares this news with you, I don’t think you need say much “How are you feeling?” “What do you need?” “I can’t imagine what you’re going through but I want you to know I’m here whenever you want to talk about it” or cheer me up with ice cream or grilled turkey and hugs without saying anything. I don’t think this is too hard.
If you can’t say it right, show it. Show concern and understanding or support. Be kind. Offer a hug. Empathy is key! Thank God we are all standing.
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