🖤IN THE MOMENT! 🖤
#TBT to one of my fave interviews EVER on my life as a mum. “I’ll take kisses and cuddles over an immaculate house”! And I WILL. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. 🖤
Although let’s not confuse this glam shoot with early motherhood where days were spent in PJs, I wondered if I’d ever feel like ME again and I felt overwhelmed at having a human to keep alive! But we DID IT! And my two are my proudest achievements to date. I remember this shoot being a surreal glam experience - my first as a mum of 2!These days - being in the moment is probably something 100% of us struggle with almost 100% of the time! With so many draws on our time (hi that you’re looking at your screen right now!) it’s easy to try and do everything, all the time. But you’ll end up doing nothing right.
So now I try to give 100% to whatever I’m doing in that moment. If I’m with the kids, I’m with the kids. If I’m writing / working I take myself and my laptop somewhere I won’t be disturbed. Life is so much
easier that way! *puts on Strictly voice..... “Keeeeeeeeeeeep JUGGLING”! X
(📸by @juliaboggio at @boggiostudios - and @kazfernandomakeup who made me feel A-MAZING!)
My ego is filled with self-doubt. She questions, analyzes, and overthinks everything. She’s obsessed with control, and finds it difficult to let go. She gets attached easily, and feels uncomfortable with uncertainty. She’s afraid of failing, and unceasingly worries about whether what she’s doing is right or alluring. She demands perfection, and has a tendency to feel less-than. She gets stuck in fear, and does everything possible to avoid feeling pain, being seen, or getting hurt. ⠀
Her voice used to be so loud that I thought it was my own. She ruled me, influenced me, moved me, without my even knowing—while I lived blindly, blissfully, unwittingly unaware.⠀
Until somehow, somewhere, something inside me split. ⠀
I started paying attention to her thoughts and the cruel way she’d talk. I sat with her, listened to her, and felt the way she made me feel she when she’d speak. I got used to her beliefs and her tendencies—familiar with the limiting ways in which she moved, and lived, and breathed.⠀
It’s funny how it works—the shift soft, subtle, and almost always, seemingly imperceptible. ⠀
The results incomparably delectable.⠀
Somehow, in some way, this self-critical, judgmental voice becomes muffled by the gentle focus of awareness, attention, observing, and allowing.⠀
And, what we’re left with is the soft, tender, delightful truth of who we really are.
It’s Day 15 of our photo challenge and I hope you’ve been enjoying following our posts and those others have shared. It’s not too late to join in, just use the daily prompts shown here and the hashtag #pmhphoto2018
Today’s prompt is In The Moment. Learning to be #present and #mindful was a HUGE help in my #recovery. I spent 24 hours a day worrying about the future - how will I cope with being a mum, what if I never feel better, what if I hurt my baby etc. Those thoughts utterly consumed me 💜
But anxiety can’t exist in the present moment so if you can begin to learn how to ground yourself in the now it becomes a really powerful tool. This takes time and is impossible to achieve at all times but it’s definitely really helpful once you crack it.
Breathe * The Breath is our essential life force, without it there is no life, when we stop breathing is when we die. Even though we know this we tend to forget it with the busyness of life. The tendency is we spend most of our time in our heads, in the past, future or being in the doing mode, rather than just being. This doing mode is especially significant when we are living in a city like London, (don't get me wrong I love the hustle and bustle of city life and have lived in this city for nearly 40 years now) however there is a flip side to this; fast, manic, hectic and chaotic energy. This fast pace of living, rushing from one thing to another puts a lot of pressure on body and mind which impacts on our life force; THE BREATH. *
The challenge is connecting with the breath as we are in the doing mode as we get on with our daily activities. I find that when I spend just as little as 5 mins in the morning, connecting, observing in the being mode, it sets the tone for the rest of the day. I am much more in tune with my breath and notice when I don't breathe fully and deeply. When I don't make time for this which happens a lot these days, I start my day in my head and off I go. *
The simple action of connecting with my in breath and my out breath helps me be more grounded and connect to my center, my core. I find it also helps me with be in touch with the body and not have this separation between the myself and my body. *
The breath is a beautiful, simple action, it does not cost us anything, it does not require us to go anywhere, it is our birthright. To really appreciate it we must connect, which is a connection to our self. Tune into your breath when ever you can and see where the flow takes you and what messages it has for you. * * * *
#breath#lifeforce#justbe#connectiontoself#breathing#slowingdown#bepresent#inthemoment#morningroutine#selfhelptools#justbe * * * *