In my case, trust issues only occur in my intimate relationships. To me, being in a relationship is a place of vulnerability. It is a place where I can be easily hurt and a place where I can get hurt by the person I love the most. My trust issues stemmed from watching men in my family hurt the women that I love. They stemmed from me being abused by someone I called family. I’ve tackled my trust issues in two ways. The first was through getting to the root of them. I went back to the trauma and did some serious self-reflection. I really had to be honest about who I was. I went to therapy and told my therapist my dirtiest secrets. I let her into my dark world and told her my most embarrassing thoughts. Together, we discussed why I was the way that I was. Opening that door led to me realizing why I did certain things in relationships. Self-awareness is the first step to recovery. I also did journaling to help with this. Once I was writing mean things about an ex and suddenly I started writing about my father. When the transition occurred, I realized that my issues with my ex were really issues I had with my father. This is why I encourage journaling as a way to discover new things about yourself. After my self-reflection, I worked on my self-esteem. If you’re having trust issues, you probably have poor self-esteem. You have to value yourself so much that if the person you love the most hurts you, you know when to walk away. You have to be confident enough to see it as their loss. I expanded my hobbies. I got fit and started eating healthy. I went back to school. I build a strong foundation for self-esteem to the point where even if I do get hurt, I have a lot to fall back on. Your world will come crashing down if you depend solely on your relationship to feel good about yourself. I hope this helps anyone struggling with trust issues. It’s hard work, but not impossible. Also know that I still struggle, but I’ve come a long way because of the work I’ve done.
I’m so unbelievably ready to be my own boss FULL TIME. To work not only when but where I want to. When I miss home (like I do right now), I’ll just grab my laptop and my pup and away we go. No requesting off. No PTO needed. That’ll be my life soon. I promise.
Do you want that life too? Maybe you’re not homesick, maybe you just love to travel. Maybe it’s always been your dream to be a stay at home mom but life is too expensive for a one income household. Maybe you just like to stay in your PJs all day (no judgement!)
You can work from home and make the money you need to live the life you want. All you have to do is take the leap of faith.
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Going back over things I couldn’t do before has really made me realise how bad of a place my head was in a few months ago. My mind is so much clearer now I’m looking at all of this and wondering how I found facing uni so difficult it feels like I’m reading through completely different lectures than I remember, it’s so strange how perception changes and my mind can handle a lot more and works a lot better than before 🧐🤷🏻♀️🌟 #normalisementalhealth#selfcare#mentalhealthawareness#mindfulness#anxietyrecovery#depressionrecovery
ANYTHING’S POSSIBLE IF YOU’VE GOT ENOUGH NERVE. 🔮 I don’t know if you know this, but mofos get real uncomfortable when you have the nerve to live in your truth & step outside of your comfort zone. But guess what? That’s where the possibilities are endless & the real magic begins. 💔🍋🌀🔆 #SeasonOfSelfLove#SpikedLemonade#TheJanelleShow#JanelleRyan#JKRowling