Being negative brought me happiness, friendships, and everything my heart desired.... said no one ever.
When something bad happens it's easy to think the worst case scenario to believe that you are completely to blame and life is about to change for the worst. But this way of thinking is not helpful.
Dr Seligman in his book Authentic Happiness talks about four strategies that you should do to start disputing your beliefs on a daily bases.
1. Evidence ...Look at the evidence what are the facts? pessimist tend to over react so ask yourself What evidence do I have for this belief?
2. Alternative... there's never just one cause to an event so don't be a pessimist and just latch onto the worst possible cause. This does not serve you. Undo your negative beliefs patterns by generating new alternatives. Maybe you didn't land the project because you were late to the meeting, or your PA gave you the wrong data, or maybe the successful applicant was a family friend. Maybe it had nothing to do with you or your abilities. Hmmm😉
3. Implications... if the facts support the negative events or belief that you have, then we need to do a technique called decatastrophizing. This is when you ask yourself "Well what are the implications, what is the likelihood that this belief will lead to the worst case scenario"? Now if you're pessimist you'll go to worst case scenario, but I would ask you to look at all different implications, for eg does having that extra bowl of ice cream mean that you will be obese forever and a day... probably not.😄
4. Usefulness... How useful is your belief system and how well is it serving you? It may be true, but can you change the situation or the environment in the future to get another outcome? .
Start practicing today and everyday disputing your beliefs, look at the events, listen to your beliefs, look at the consequences and vigorously... vigorously dispute your belief system. It is it is only then that you become an Intentional Optimist and you life will change for the better.
Pessimist turned Intentional Optimist
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Here's your daily reminder that green juice and essential oils wont fix everything.
We're all human and sometimes we needs hugs, kisses, therapy sessions, sunshine and dogs.
We all needs dogs.
You're human. You're not invincible.
And what a beautiful thing that is.
Take it easy, friends.
@thaifresh is now serving breakfast starting at 9am every day and while the tacos were incredible and so so unique, LOOK AT THESE LATTES. one is a beet cocoa latte and one is a turmeric golden milk latte. I’m in love. ☕️
What is more loving: Speaking truth with care & empathy, or refusing to speak in order to avoid offending?
So, for all of those who don’t know me, I have a tendency to speak on controversial / “hot” topics that can sometimes offend people. And while I do not do it perfectly, when it comes to Jesus & the Word of God, I can’t think of a better reason to face persecution. In fact, let’s rejoice in it (1 Peter 4:12-19)
I have learned there is a time & place for everything. A time to speak & a time to be silent (Ecclesiastes 3:7). But, just because there are times you shouldn’t say something, doesn’t mean it’s never meant to be said.
So why am I bringing this up? Today, I met with my Religion professor to talk about an assignment, & we got talking about Christianity & some frustrations he had toward evangelism. He said Christians have an agenda to reach every tribe but do so in a way that causes deep shame & fear. I explained how I too got frustrated when some Christians use a generalized method without attempting to venture into people’s hearts and come alongside them. How there is a need to evangelize with understanding, love & truth. I told him it’s important for Christians to look to Jesus to know how we should communicate the love & law that Jesus taught.
And then, my teacher said: “And the religious intolerance! The refusal to accept other beliefs. What are your thoughts on that?”
I had to choose whether to please people or God. And so, I said, “I’ll put it like this: You talk about what you love, right? Well, I love Jesus. I believe that through my repentance & acceptance of Jesus Christ as my Lord & Savior, by the grace of God, I am saved from an eternity of separation from God. If I believe that to be true, wouldn’t it be selfish of me to not tell others about it & offer them a chance to personally accept it? To have a relationship with God? That’s why I do it. So people can decide for themselves if they want to believe in it or not.”
God is both merciful & just. And sometimes you have to be willing to face persecution for the name of the One whom you love ❤️
Thanksgiving is a week away and I’m already so excited to be with family and friends, share good indulgent food that puts us into a coma haha, late night drinks and rounds of ping pong and progressive gin, and sitting curled up by the fire looking at all of my loved ones and reflecting on how very blessed we are. I know this time of year can also bring a lot of stress as we try to be the hostess with the mostest but my wish is that we can be present in the moments-even when they are crazy-and know that everything done with love is also loved and appreciated. Wishing you so much gratitude and happiness this thanksgiving xoxo 😘
Give me all the plants... I have to admit a tragedy has happened, my beloved fiddle leaf ficus has bit the dust... so I’m on the search for a new one, or maybe something a little different... I heard the olive tree is the new fiddle leaf ficus 😂😂... tell me what is your favorite house plant ...