The glitter is getting out of control! Also training myself to be comfortable with my broad shoulder by wearing clothes that show them off. I think society teaches cis women and trans women to be afraid of masculine traits. But my shoulders are a sign of my strength: and strength can be feminine, too 💜
Please realize that trans and gender non conforming people were raised in the same transphobic society as everyone else, had to unlearn the same internalized bs, have access to the same language and tools that y’all have access to, AND have to navigate all of that on top of our own feelings of dysphoria and not belonging all while trying to be the people we are meant to be.
So no one gets a pass for misgendering someone because “it’s too hard to get used to” or not even attempting to use they/them pronouns because “it doesn’t make any sense”. We had to learn and get used to it too. We had to practice they/them pronouns too. We struggled with seeing ourselves differently than how the world was used to seeing us too.
I don’t expect anyone to fully understand my identity right away, or be comfortable with using my pronouns on day one. What I do expect is for y’all to try. I didn’t inexplicably wake up with the language and resources to define myself out of the blue. I did work. I used google and YouTube, went to the library, read books, followed blogs— all things that are free and accessible to most people.
I did the work, and you can too. No one gets a pass because it’s difficult. I know it’s difficult because I’m the one who lives it.