The Chief Purpose Connector's Lesson 232: BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF...🤔🙌❤️💯🔥🙌🆙 Are you able to BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF? I know we want to be #honest with others, but can we be honest with ourselves? This has been a question that I have been asking myself as I grow through life. We are quick to ask for honesty when working with people and feel validated when we receive a commendation that we are honest. But, why do we wait for validation to know whether #honesty exist or not? My answer: We have NOT been HONEST WITH OURSELVES about many things. We live in a world that says "suck it up and be strong." We don't want to become vulnerable and if we do, fear of criticism grips us. I want to offer a simple response to this, "BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF." Here are five Connection Point Principles on how to BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF:
1. Begin your day expressing how you really feel.
2. If someone ask you how you are tell them the truth.
3. Give yourself some grace when things don't go as planned.
4. Accept your weaknesses and don't be afraid to share it with others.
5. Acknowledge your fears and #learn to overcome them.
I believe Benjamin Franklin was onto something when he said, "Honesty is the best policy." I think it still holds true.
Failure post. So much of social media is everyone's highlights. We begin to compare and worry. But everyone has their dark moments. Me? I've had a string of auditions lately. Some good, some bad. Booked nothing. You walk out of the good ones thinking "I can't believe I'm gonna book this career changing role", and you walk out of the bad ones thinking "that CD won't call me for a while." And then actors theorize together. You always book the bad ones - or - even though it was great, it's out of your hands, let it go. My point is this - just like a painter needs to paint, an actor needs to act. And when you commit full time to an acting career, you never know when the next job is coming. And that's when it gets hard. There is only so much you can do while you wait for the chance to rock an invited audition. So how do you handle that downtime? Live your life, right? Maybe. But what if you've already sacrificed so much that this slump isn't so easy? Well, there are a few things to remember. Even MVPs strike out from time to time. You can't always hit a home run. Sometimes you will. And even then, maybe the team loses. So it comes down to keeping the faith. Learning how to stay the course. Practicing patience and perseverance. I know my next job is coming soon, but I have no idea when, and that's where the struggle lies. An actor life is tough. But when that call comes that you booked it - it's like Christmas. So hang in there fellow thespians. We live a tough life and that makes us awesome. #failurepost#notthehighlights#actorlife
Let’s talk. As I am on holiday there is more time for this kind of thing. I get asked frequently: “how do you get a seat at the table?” (photo is me at @europeanparliament earlier this year) or “wow! You have done a lot for 31” or “what qualifications do I need to be a business owner”. While these are all great questions, there is no straightforward answer. More importantly, what you see of me are usually carefully curated highlights of the great things I get to do. Let me make this more real for you: I did not take pictures of myself two years ago, sitting on my sofa crying, genuinely regretting not taking a real job. I started my journey early 2013 in #cork and I can honestly say it took 3 years of consistency, hard work, lack of sleep, stress and grit before I started to see any fruits of my labour. The number of “no’s” I received was soul destroying. The trick lies in setting a deadline for self-pity (I allow myself to wallow for maximum 24 hours, as you are allowed to feel sad) - picking yourself up the next day and simply trying again. Now, I want to point out that some ideas probably won’t work. The reason I knew mine would was because I help people comply with Regulation I.e. people will have to comply. In some cases you need to know when to stop as well. In my case that was when we ran out of money, the software was too early for the market and people wanted consultancy. I listened. On another note, apply for things! There are so many competitions, fellowships, courses, awards that are free to apply for. Lots of people assume they don’t have a shot, but you miss all the shots you don’t take. So give things a go. You’d be surprised as to what might happen ✨🌷