#MCMotivation (and an early #TBT in honor of it being Howard's homecoming week!) In a conversation with a dear friend mine today I was reminded of another way I knew James was the one... I will never forget the day James first checked me. And not in a bad way...but in a way that shocked me because I had never been checked like that before...
See, before James I had put up walls (not boundaries) to keep myself from getting hurt or attached. I had just gotten out of a relationship in which I was very unhappy and brought some bad habits with me into my relationship with James. And one day, early on while we were on the phone, he was asking me something that would require me to be vulnerable, to break down a wall, and I wasn't tryna have it. His response to me was simply "If we're going to do this then you have to talk to me. Otherwise, this isn't going to work." 😳 Not malicious, just up front. And I was so happy I wasnt about to screw this up. So, I took a deep breath and allowed myself to be vulnerable with him. Whether we want to admit it or not, being happy can be scary. Being open and honest is not always comfortable. But James did not only require vulnerability of me, he made me feel safe in that place. He listened, he thoughtfully responded, and he was vulnerable with me in return. Never once have a regretted that decision to break down my walls and let him see who I really am. Because the beauty in that is, when it's the right person, they'll see you even clearer than you've ever seen yourself. ❤
I can’t believe my best friend is a fiancé!! Thank you @dee_hawk for including us in such a special love filled day. It was literally the perfect surprise. Can’t wait for the wedding😆❤️ #blacklove#howardlove#everythingislove
Congratulations to the beautiful @treeseeya and Ryan on their marriage this weekend! I’m honored to have witnessed your love continue to blossom across the coast, and I pray that it continues to multiply as you embark on this amazing journey together 💕 #TheMelonsons#HowardLove#BisonLove