As I lay here battling a flu-like plague, I’m thankful to have a loving and caring husband to take care of me. Not the ideal situation during a honeymoon, but I’ll make it up to you baby. #thankful#husbands#gay#instagay @socialbends 💍❤️👬🌈🔥👨🏻⚕️
Wedding dateline. 18.08.18. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 (8, of course, is the luckiest number in Chinese culture.)
Incredibly futurist day for the wedding of my lovely friends Dr Dick Quan & John McGrath.
It really was such a beautiful, happy and joyful afternoon celebration of two people who have known each other for 25 years – a gorgeous celebrant, passsionate speeches, great people, amazing food and my lunch partner was artist Ben Quilty. I mean, I lucked out as much as Dick and John did when they met all those years ago.
Dick is one of the country’s most passionate art collectors, lovers and philanthropists, so between he and John they had their divine families - who had travelled from all over the world – & a beautiful guest list of friends including SBS CEO Michael Obeid, Nick Mitzevich, Marita Leuver & Sue Cato.
Being dissatisfied in #marriage, we have to focus on THREE MAJOR FACTORS. ➡️(((( #1 WE stood up there and said "I DO".))))⬅️ 🔴Nobody forced us to marry who we married. That was OUR choice that we made, despite all of the RED flags we saw or the things that we were dissatisfied with BEFORE we said "I Do". I will be the first to admit that we didn't make the best decision, marrying (prematurely).....especially after not even knowing each other very long and neither of is were prepared for the task. However, we have sat under the WORD, at a great Word teaching church, with a pastor and mentors to help us navigate, plus we have had MANY counselors and counseling sessions, from godly counsel, to keep us afloat. ➡️((((#2 We must stop taking our focus off of OURSELVES and our PERSONAL WEAKNESSES, faults, and issues.))))⬅️ 🔴 NONE of us are perfect and in those imperfections, we should invest MORE time and energy, working on US than we do trying to work on our spouse. Many of us, because of our issues with ourselves, we point at our spouse, making them our problem, when the entire time the "enemy" is the "inner-me". ➡️(((#3. How can we say we LOVE our spouse, when we DON'T LOVE OURSELVES?)))⬅️ 🔴Many of us suffer with low self esteem issues and have low self images. As a result, it's hard to love a spouse with unconditional love, when we don't love ourselves unconditionally. As a result, our love for our spouse will always be "conditional" and that love will be based on "if they do right". ➡️((((IN CONCLUSION))))⬅️
🔴If we keep these things in perspective, our marital relationships will change dramatically and we can focus more on the MISSION of marriage, which is dominion in the earth, via partnership, being FRUITFUL (productive) and multiply!!!! #LpLikePaul#TheTrapPlan#Marriage#ThisAintNoGame#ThisAintCheckers#relationships#HUSBANDS#wives
Relationships after babies...
This Saturday morning, after a busy week at work, Paul and I were bickering before anyone had breakfast. As the day progressed it was about our plan for the day, then the jumper Harvey would wear and then we bickered about the time we would leave to meet friends for dinner. It felt like we bickered the whole day and when we finally got in the car to see our friends, we finally started to talk like a normal couple as the kids slept. We as a moment to breathe. Paul went into ‘auto-pilot’ and drove to his work, completely missing the turn off to where we were going. This cock up added 40 minutes to the trip. It was then the bickering got the better of me and after getting cranky at him and sitting, in a huff, as close to the passenger door as I could get, I worried that our relationship was a bit rocky.
We bicker a lot. And some times it gets to me and I get concerned that maybe we are in a bad space. But then Paul reaches over and links his finger with mine and I remember we are ok..
Bickering is healthy. It’s because times are tough with kids and some days it can be relentless. A lot of the time the arguments we have are trivial and it’s just important to keep the fight about the topic, rather than with each other. To fight with purpose. And know that if the bickering stopped, it means someone stopped caring.
Paul, I am glad we both care and want to be involved, as much as we do. X