Today started out amazing and then...😳The kids slept in and we started slow, but then I told them we were going to go for a walk and then go to the grocery store. Zeke was mad because I had told him we didn’t have plans for the day. Isaiah was mad because he wanted to play video games with Zeke. Zariyah was mad because she didn’t want to leave. Jasmine was mad because she wanted to stay home and Tekiah always hates leaving unless it’s to see daddy.
I had a long conversation with the kids about being respectful and considerate and how much we as a family want to be outdoors more. That we need to accepting of chores and all of those things. Then I asked Zeke what he needs from me. He said through tears that he just wants to have meaningful conversations and to play long board games and laugh together, but we can’t because I’m always on the phone and when I get off, it’s to do chores.
Guys, I hide in my phone because I don’t like dealing with the reaction from my kids. I hide because I hate resistance. I want it to be easy. I don’t ask them to do chores consistently, I hesitate going on errands because of the resistance I feel from the kids.
However, I have to be the adult. I have to be the one to set the boundaries and change my behavior so I can model it for my children. The idea of doing that drove me to tears tonight. Which is when I realized how huge a problem this has become.
So what did we do? We went for a very late walk at Boulevard and had so much fun! We walked, climbed rocks, threw rocks in the water and then finished off with hot chocolate and then the grocery store.
I’m excited to see things change the more I grow and choose to be present and set an example of proper boundaries with love and presence. 🌻
And?! How awesome is Zeke for articulating what he needed so well and with so much maturity. I am constantly amazed at his wonderful heart. 🌻