Why do we always think everyone else is doing things right and we are doing things wrong? Everyone knows how to do it and we don’t. I used to feel like I’m missing a trick somewhere, I was sure that if I just spoke to a enough Mums they will give me the magic answer, the KEY to it all of how to raise intelligent, happy and secure little humans whilst also staying happy, secure and sane yourself! And as soon as I know the secret, I’ll be laughing!
I know I have given motherhood my absolute everything. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I was in the zone! I was like right, I am going to nail this!!! My enthusiasm started to dwindle ever so slightly when sleep deprivation really started to kick in. Yet through it all, I know I would definitely get an A for effort. My mind set always was ‘I have to be the best Mum ever!!!!!!!’
I still to this day don’t know why I put quite so much pressure on myself for perfection. But what I do know now though, is that so much of all of this is out of my control. I can’t control my baby, this person in his own right, to behave in a certain way that society would deem as ‘good’ and thus making me The Best Mum Ever. I can’t speed up certain areas of his development or expect him to be the perfect balance of happy and content all day. It actually breaks my heart how we have all been conditioned by society to think things have to be a certain way, children need to be behaving in certain ways and need to be reaching developmental milestones at the same time. Every child is different, just like every adult is different. We all come in different shapes and sizes and we are all interested in different things.
Children are not people when they grow up, they are people right now. They already have their own personality, own interests and own agenda. So my kid isn’t interested in threading beads on a string! There is an immediate assumption that he is not developing his ‘fine motor skills’?! Do we ever talk about fine motor skills as adults? No! Because it means jack sh*t! I know some adults who couldn’t even thread a bead on a piece of string- what do we say about them? Nothing.
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Tea party with my baby. She wanted to wear her frilly tsum tsum dress. This time I made real passion fruit tea. She decided she didn’t like it and spit it back in her cup. Then she proceeded to continuously refill my cup and mix it with cream and sugar and feed me until I could take no more. I hope she never forgets these....
Sometimes I wonder if she’s going to grow up and become a librarian. ⠀
Every time we bring a new book into the house, she flips through it once herself and then turns it around and starts explaining the pages like she’s read it 100 times. 😂😍⠀
So thankful that Theresa of @mycatholickids created a sweet book of bible characters that I would be thrilled for Little A to memorize and recite to us (complete with hand gestures, of course)!⠀
My little unicorn loving, sparkly everything bookworm fashionista. Dream big, baby girl. 💖🙏🏽🦄✨
With the last couple of babies we have let one of the older kids spend the night at the hospital after the baby was born. Lydia had been waiting two years for it to finally be her turn. She loved all the alone baby holding time, free packaged cookies and little round cups of juice.
I remember those first few days at home right after we brought both of our babies home. The immense amount of love we felt, the hours spent just staring at all of the little features on their their miniature bodies, the delirium of running on no sleep. .
I just sent off this gallery and it’s one of my very favorites from the year. I’m so very honored to be invited into people’s homes and capture these truly precious first days. Congratulations May Fam. 💚
This is the California valley right now. The Air Quality Index in Sacramento is at 195. The haze you see isn’t fog; it’s a thick blanket of smoke sitting over the valley. My heart goes out to the thousands of victims suffering from displacement and loss because of the Camp Fire. If it’s this bad here, it’s surely unbearable up there. ( If anyone needs a mask, fire stations in Sacramento County are giving away free particulate masks.) @officialscusd Close our schools! Private and State schools are closed, why aren’t the public schools?
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I was challenged to make a self-portrait representing me. Honestly, I (over)thought through it for days, and then I almost decided to not participate. Because...how can I represent who I am apart from my husband, my kids, and my ministry? Plus, I'd much rather be behind the lens rather than in front of it. .
Then it hit me. I wanted to capture the real, the raw, 30 something...me. So I decided to (under)think it. After a long day, I literally asked my husband to park the car and snap a few shots of me on the dirt roads that lead us to our home. .
It's not perfect. I'm squinting. I didn't pose myself to hide my imperfections. My braid is a mess. But here I am. Real, raw, uniquely me. And no, I didn't part with my camera, but at least I looked into one lens while finding a way to also be behind one, lol.
Because everyone needs some inspiration and motivation behind the camera, I have connected with a group of talented friends to challenge and push ourselves in the simple things... not only to be inspired but to perhaps be an inspiration to others.
The theme for #ourlooptyloop this week is "This is Me". Up next is the beautiful