@akshita.prasad writes, "Single Parenting A Dangerous Concept: Madras High Court’s Patriarchal Stance"
With the strict gendered roles we assign parents in raising children, single parenting has long been frowned upon and stigmatized. Though instances of single parenting are almost unheard of in India, due to the scrutiny and ostracization single parents and their children are subjected to, the few single parent household that do exist aren’t just subjected to ostracization but are also considered a threat to India’s culture and the principles this culture stands for, but most of all, it is believed to be a considerable threat to the traditional Indian familial set-up .
It is often believed that children of divorced parents will grow up to be problematic adults, especially the children of divorced women, considering the lack of a ‘male figure’ in their life, growing up. A lot of people remain in bad marriages when they have children, especially if they have daughters stating that their daughters won’t be married off easily if they are the child of a divorced woman. This is a regressive and patriarchal idea, but has a lot of truth in it, it is largely assumed that women will make bad wives, just like their mothers once were, because we have always blamed women for ‘breaking-up’ the family and not being accommodating or compromising enough, something we solely expect women to do.
Our dismissal of single-parents also comes from the deeply gendered roles we think parents play. We collectively believe that a child can only grow up to be a healthy adult if their parents fulfill their roles depending on their gender and we believe with conviction that they cannot deviate from this gendered norm and perform a variety of roles and duties, even if it isn’t traditionally associated with their gender. The whole premise of the disdain of single-parenting is based off this ridiculous and patriarchal belief. CLICK ON THE LINK IN BIO TO READ MORE.
“Silent Sam,” the Confederate Standing soldier monument on the campus of UNC Chapel Hill, has been pulled down by protestors. Good riddance to him and the white-supremacist agenda he represented. (BTW my great grandmother was involved in the UDC campaign to erect the statue so this is especially rewarding for me to see the literal and figurative architecture of oppression that my ancestors built, come down.)