The countdown to my last 60 days. How I went from London resident with a flat full of stuff to nomad, living out of a suitcase, now in Gran Canaria.
It was not as easy as you might think !
Article on the homepage: www.thetigersjourney.com or find the link in the bio.
Image: Matt Crump
Why does a single women always have to be thought of as ‘lonely’, ‘sad’ or ‘miserable’? Why is it such a crazy idea that that she might be happy just doing her own thing? Why can’t she be chilling and taking her time? Why can’t she be thought of as smart, and even strong enough for not settling for any bullshit, just for the sake of being able to say or show that she has somebody in her life? Why is it always assumed that something must be terribly wrong with her for being single, instead of that something could be oh so incredibly right with her? People love to preach how important and necessary it is for us women to learn how to be alone, and love it. To create a bond with ourselves before we hop into a compromise with someone else. That we must put ourselves first, enjoy it, and not apologize for it. Yet, the moment we are single, and are doing all those things...something is ‘wrong’ and we must be ‘sad’ and ‘miserable’? Kindly, fuck off. Meanwhile, flocks of men are over here complaining about being ‘friend-zoned’, but I’m here to assure you that the ‘friend-zone’ is as mythical as Narnia. Really. It doesn’t exist. Women are not obligated to show affection to a guy who does her a certain number of favors, or buys her dinner, or gives her compliments. Spending time and money is not an investment for which the only return is sex. Women have this funny little thing called free will, where they are actually, believe it or not, allowed to choose who they are attracted to and what they want to do with that attraction. Expecting anything else is straight up entitlement and reeks of misogyny 💖💋 #effyourbeautystandards#effyourbodystandards#celebratemysize#confessplus#confidentlybeautiful#fiercefeminist#womenaremorethantheirbodies#womenaremorethanobjects#strongwomen#womenempowerment#allmysingleladies#singlewomen#diariesofasinglegirl#singleaf#wildheartscantbetamed#strongertogether#womenoweyounothing#whoruntheworldgirls#thefutureisfemale#nothereforyourentertainment#nothereforyourapproval
Times have changed, hopefully the ignorant people will change with time..Feminism doesn't mean a woman shouldn't be under a man nor build a family, she has a fundamental role to play, that of moulding, refining, building, educating and stabilizing her environment.. Feminism has been aimed at making sure a woman is fairly if not rightly treated in the society..... It starts with the preference given to a male child, a woman with girls as "children" must pray and try again and again until she gives her husband a "malechild" does that say the female child is useless and does Lil or nothing to the betterment of the family and society? They say oh! someone to carry on the family name " if humans can die. Why shouldn't a family name die?? Igbo people often say "nwa wu nwa " A child whether male or female turns out great with good efforts from parents and environment.
That being said.... Next time you see a woman with only female children. Don't send out "pity party " vibe... Or advice her to try again for a male child except she wants to..... She's probably happy and living her best life!!!! Finally I was born to be different, to stand out and not to fit in, if you have no input on how I feed, your words are gibberish to my ears.......
Join Bulletin and Equality for HER for an intimate roundtable discussion about intersectional feminism, how to be a strong ally, and how to build a true feminist community that supports and champions all races, religions, sexual orientations, abilities and identities. CONTACT @blairimani FOR MORE INFO. ✊🏿✊🏽✊🏻
Sometimes it may seem like the trials of life are too much and too confusing and your purpose here on earth you will question but it's a miracle that you are here and your very existence is so important. You are worthy and loved. ❤🦋
زن بودن پیچیده است. اینکه آنی که جامعه از تو میخواهد، نباشی و خودت بمانی، اینکه هرروز که به خیابان میروی، هزاران نگاه هیز و آلوده را تحمل کنی، اینکه زیبا باشی و بدانی که فهم و درک این زیبایی در توان هر کسی نیست و ظرفیت میخواهد، اینکه حواست به رفتارت باشد تا مردی از شوخی و خندهی تو برداشت بد نکند، اینکه هربار هزاران متلک ریز و درشت جنسی را در دیالوگهای روزانهی مردم بشنوی به طوری که دیگر نسبت به آنها سِر شوی و مغزت واکنشی نداشته باشد، اینکه کابوسهای روزانهات را با خود به رختخواب ببری و حتی در خواب آرامش نداشته باشی و دندان به هم بسایی، اینکه به مردی دل ببندی و جز رفع نیاز جنسی چیز دیگری از او نبینی، اینکه قوانین جامعهات دائما تو را سرکوب کند و تو را به عنوان جنس دوم یاد کند، اینکه هزاران استعداد ریز و درشت خودت را ببینی و مطمئن باشی که از مردی که در صندلی ریاست دفترت نشسته، لایقتری اما تنها به دلیل زن بودن نتوانی جای او باشی و هزار مانع سر راه خود ببینی، تمام اینها را در طول روز دیدن و حس کردن و باز لبخند زدن و با سرِ بالا راه رفتن در جامعه سخت است.
آری، زن بودن چنین معجزهای است. این همه درگیری درونی و بیرونی داشته باشی و باز لبخند زیبایت را بر چهره حفظ کنی و دست یاری به سوی هرکس و ناکسی دراز نکنی. غرور زنانه، چنین ظرفیتی دارد و اینگونه حریف میطلبد. ای کاش همهی ما وقتی کلمهی "زن" را میشنویم، لحظهای اینها را به یاد بیاوریم. ای کاش تنها کمی زن بودن و جایگاه و ارزش بالای زنان را بفهمیم و ببینیم که زن بدون شعار دادن، چگونه برمیخیزد و عملا مبارزه میکند تا پایان راه، تا آزادی. به امید آزادی تمام زنان دنیا
🎈 Mid-Life Clarity 🎈 .
We all have our circumstances and journeys that make us uniquely who we are, Right? No mid-life crisis here, just relishing in these four children who inadvertently make me feel younger! The minute someone reminds me that I graduated high school 20 something years ago I pay no mind! I can instantly feel youthful flying free with balloons with my four little side kicks! I choose to see the world as a vast place like my little brood does! Even though I am as old as I am (no, don’t ask) I still think the world is filled with opportunity and possibility! I am primed and ready to lead the way like a mama bear! Who’s with me? .
Strong and Beautiful Babes in @bellethreads Behind the scenes with some of my favorite models and a very talented photographer! #bellethreads#thefutureisfemale#girlpower
Models: @sanibelv and @tayva_couture 's babes
New items have been added to the SALE section of the shop, plus all individual lip balms are 10% off! Click the link in bio for more info 🌟
On a personal note, thanks to all of you for your kind words + encouragement from my last post. I so appreciate all of you! My family's foster care journey has deeply affected who I am as a person; it is by far the most challenging, life changing, + profound thing I have ever participated in.
If you or someone you know is a foster parent, or if you ever wondered about foster care, please consider me a resource, a safe + listening ear. We are #bettertogether, we are #strongertogether.